It pays to study some psychology of healthy and not so health relationships so as to learn when and where to place boundaries and when to enforce them. It is especially crucial to figure out which personalities to avoid like the plague. The three people who intend to inflict legal harm onto me despite their own personal distrust and dislike for the other party in my divorce case parallel in personalities (and their potential disorders). All three have issues with discretion, suppression of erroneous opinions, restraint, composure, etiquette, and more. All three of them happen to seek acceptance by being in relationships (codependency); they act in very distinct promiscuous behavior to the point of being sex addicts; two of them endanger their own children by opening their home to strangers they hardly know for the purpose of sexual fulfillment; I have seen all three explode in temper and partake in drug use in front of their children. If you don't participate or disapprove of their choices and behaviors, beware of their wrath!
These are the people you must keep your distance from. Be kind and courteous and DEFINITELY, do not allow them into the sanctity of your family: keep at an arms length at least!
Do not allow invaders into your home. Enforce your boundaries or accept the consequences of allowing an invasion.
My mother used to tell me, "If you lay down with dogs, expect to wake up with fleas" and "you ARE who you hang with". These are very old, wise adages to be abide by for your own peace. Now, if only we can get better at identifying the dogs ahead of time.
